H\u0259kim-Kosmetoloq \u00dclviyy\u0259 M\u0259mm\u0259dovan\u0131n m\u00fcsahib\u0259si.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Salam, \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, xo\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fck!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u018fleyk\u00fcm\u0259 salam, xo\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fck, xo\u015f g\u0259lmisiniz!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Xo\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259k! Sizc\u0259 qad\u0131n kimdir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Qad\u0131n, Allah\u0131n yaratd\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259xluqdur, insand\u0131r, birinci n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s \u0259sl qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u018fsl qad\u0131n (g\u00fcl\u00fcr), q\u0259rib\u0259 suald\u0131r, \u0259sl qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Y\u0259ni ideal qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, ideal insan yoxdur, ideal qad\u0131n x\u0259yallar\u0131m\u0131zda ya\u015fad\u0131r\u0131q, b\u0259li, \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l olmal\u0131d\u0131r, \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131, bacar\u0131ql\u0131, h\u0259r bir \u00e7\u0259tinliyin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lm\u0259lidir. \u0130deal qad\u0131n\u0131 biz bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Sizc\u0259, bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi n\u0259dir v\u0259 yaxud bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi ki\u015fil\u0259rdi, yoxsa qad\u0131nlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 S\u0259b\u0259bini deyim. Bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131qd\u0131r. Y\u0259ni bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrl\u0259r. \u018fsas problem budur. Bir-birinin, bel\u0259 dey\u0259k d\u0259, s\u0259hvinimi deyim, q\u00fcsurunumu deyim, h\u0259zm ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r, h\u0259r iki cins. Bu da son n\u0259tic\u0259 olaraq ail\u0259l\u0259rin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r. T\u0259qsirkar olaraq dey\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, Az\u0259rbaycan c\u0259miyy\u0259tind\u0259 bo\u015fanmalara \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bkar ki\u015fil\u0259rdir. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, demir\u0259m ki, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n t\u0259qsiri yoxdur, amma \u0259sas etibaril\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 N\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r ail\u0259y\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 soyuqqanl\u0131 olublar, ail\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda m\u0259suliyy\u0259t hissi azal\u0131b, s\u0259mimi dey\u0259c\u0259m, ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 \u015forg\u00f6zl\u00fck \u00e7oxal\u0131b (g\u00fcl\u00fcr)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 S\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir \u015forg\u00f6zl\u00fcy\u0259?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bu art\u0131q ki\u015fi psixologiyas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ox q\u0259rib\u0259dir ki, bizim ki\u015fil\u0259r buna \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259 kimi, stress atmaq kimi bax\u0131rlar. Normalda bunlar bel\u0259 deyil, olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Normalda stress atmaq idmanla da ola bil\u0259r, \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259 d\u0259 eynil\u0259, n\u0259 bilim, musiqi il\u0259 d\u0259 ola bil\u0259r, h\u0259r \u015feyl\u0259 ola bil\u0259r. \u00dczr ist\u0259yir\u0259m, \u0259xlaqs\u0131z h\u0259yat ya\u015famaq o dem\u0259k deyil ki, stress at\u0131r, \u0259yl\u0259nir v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, sizc\u0259, indi insanlar bir-birin\u0259 sevib yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r, yoxsa onlar\u0131 ehtiras yax\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, m\u0259n dey\u0259rdim ki, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti sevir. Bunu ki\u015fil\u0259r haqq\u0131nda dey\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki \u00e7ox az sayda sevm\u0259yi bacaran ki\u015fi var. Qad\u0131nlar is\u0259, beyinl\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259d\u0259n, \u00fcr\u0259kl\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131rlar. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bu da sonda ac\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259yl\u0259 bitir, qad\u0131nlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini aldanm\u0131\u015f say\u0131rlar. Lakin \u00e7ox ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bu bel\u0259 deyil. B\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tind\u0259, hans\u0131 ki, bo\u015fan\u0131rlar, \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, reall\u0131q budur, qad\u0131n aldanm\u0131\u015f olur. O ki, qald\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rin sevgisin\u0259, m\u0259n ona \u015f\u0259xs\u0259n inanmam\u0131\u015fam, he\u00e7 vaxt da inanmayaca\u011fam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Niy\u0259?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u0259n el\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bu s\u0131rf ki\u015fi psixologiyas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 sev\u0259 bilir. Amma bu ba\u015f verir onlar\u0131n 16-17-18 ya\u015f d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259, hans\u0131 ki, o d\u00f6vrd\u0259 o\u011flanlar saf hissl\u0259rl\u0259 sevirl\u0259r. Ancaq inki\u015faf d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259, ya\u015f ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 daha \u00e7ox \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259y\u0259 meylli olurlar, \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r. Sevgi hissi onlarda \u00e7ox az olur. \u00c7ox az hallarda olur ki, ki\u015fi sevdiyi qad\u0131na ba\u011flan\u0131r, evl\u0259nmir v\u0259 yaxud s\u0131rf o qad\u0131nla ya\u015fay\u0131r, evl\u0259nirs\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu h\u0259min qad\u0131n\u0131n h\u00f6rm\u0259tini saxlay\u0131r. \u00c7ox az olur bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259r. Bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 dem\u0259k olar ki, bel\u0259 hallar 3-5% t\u0259\u015fkil edir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Deyirsiniz ki, \u0259sas etibaril\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r ehtirasa g\u00f6r\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r qad\u0131nlara?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ehtirasa g\u00f6r\u0259 dem\u0259zdim, s\u00f6hb\u0259t cavanlardan gedirs\u0259, t\u0259bii ki, evl\u0259nm\u0259k niy\u0259til\u0259 q\u0131zlara yax\u0131nla\u015fan o\u011flanlar \u00e7oxdur. Amma \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259 niy\u0259til\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fan da var. \u00c7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, q\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131na da bu niy\u0259tl\u0259 baxan o\u011flanlar\u0131m\u0131z var. \u018fg\u0259r ki\u015fi, yaxud qad\u0131n ail\u0259lidirs\u0259, onlar\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fmas\u0131 ehtirasla \u0259laq\u0259lidir. Ail\u0259li deyil, subayd\u0131rlarsa, hardasa ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcl\u0259ndir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, seksi sevgi il\u0259 s\u0259hv salanlara nec\u0259 bax\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00c7ox pis. Sevgi m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s, \u00e7ox \u00fclvi hissdir. H\u0259r k\u0259s sevm\u0259yi bacarm\u0131r. Sev\u0259nd\u0259 t\u0259miz hissl\u0259rl\u0259 sevm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Sevgi insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn t\u0259mizl\u0259yir, safla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r, yax\u015f\u0131 adam edir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Y\u0259ni seks olsa sevgi yaranar, yoxsa sevgi olsa seks yaranar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 O art\u0131q psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 hald\u0131r. El\u0259 olur ki, ki\u015fi \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259 xatirin\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri d\u0259 yaran\u0131r, amma daha sonra aralar\u0131nda g\u00fccl\u00fc ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q yaran\u0131r v\u0259 sevgiy\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Eynil\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131nlarda bel\u0259dir. Ola bil\u0259r ki, \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259 ki\u015fiy\u0259 ba\u015fqa niyy\u0259tl\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r, amma hans\u0131sa xasiyy\u0259tini tan\u0131yandan sonram\u0131, yaxud hans\u0131sa \u00fcst\u00fcn c\u0259h\u0259tini g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259n sonra, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri sevgiy\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259 bilir. Amma o ki, seksi sevgid\u0259n \u00fcst\u00fcn tutanlar, ya da d\u0259yi\u015fik salanlar var, bu d\u00fczg\u00fcn hal deyil. \u018fvv\u0259la, insan seks ist\u0259yirs\u0259, evl\u0259nm\u0259lidir, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmal\u0131d\u0131r. Burda s\u00f6hb\u0259t t\u0259kc\u0259 ki\u015fid\u0259n getmir. H\u0259r iki cins bu ist\u0259yi varsa, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmal\u0131d\u0131r. Allah normal insan\u0131 bel\u0259 yarad\u0131b. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 bir qayda-qanun da qoyub ki, bir ki\u015fi m\u00fctl\u0259q qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nm\u0259lidir. Amma el\u0259si var ki, ail\u0259 qurandan sonra da \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc el\u0259 hesab edir ki, guya Herakld\u0131r, ya seks simvoldur (g\u00fcl\u00fcr) n\u0259dir\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ki\u015fi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ki\u015fid\u0259n gedir s\u00f6hb\u0259t. Qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z bel\u0259 deyil. Bizim qad\u0131nlar dem\u0259k olar ki, \u0259k\u0259riyy\u0259ti, 90%-i \u0259xlaq, namus, ism\u0259tin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 d\u00fcnyada birincidir. Bizim qad\u0131nlar h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 milli mentaliteti d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n, ab\u0131r-h\u0259ya g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259n olublar. H\u0259r\u00e7\u0259nd ki, bu g\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcnd\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n pis yola d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259sind\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bkar m\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259ri g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m. \u00c7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, \u0259xlaqs\u0131z qad\u0131nlar\u0131n say\u0131 g\u00fcn\u00fc-g\u00fcnd\u0259n art\u0131r. C\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 n\u0259inki qad\u0131nlar, h\u0259tta q\u0131zlar\u0131n da i\u00e7ind\u0259 bu yola \u0259l atanlar var. Bunu ehtiyacdanm\u0131 edirl\u0259r, bilmir\u0259m n\u0259d\u0259n, ancaq c\u0259miyy\u0259timiz indi \u00e7ox ac\u0131nacaql\u0131 haldad\u0131r. Bel\u0259\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bo\u015fanmaqda \u0259n \u00e7ox \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n kimdi? Qad\u0131n, ki\u015fi, yoxsa u\u015faqlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 U\u015faqlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Niy\u0259?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00c7\u00fcnki u\u015faq h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 ist\u0259yir ki, ail\u0259si b\u00fct\u00f6v olsun. Valideynl\u0259rinin bo\u015fanmas\u0131 u\u015fa\u011fa m\u0259n\u0259vi sars\u0131nt\u0131, travma olur. Bo\u015fanma zaman\u0131 n\u0259 valideynl\u0259r, n\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259trafdak\u0131lar u\u015faqlar\u0131 fikirl\u0259\u015fmirl\u0259r. \u018fsas\u0259n d\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259li oldu\u011fu halda, u\u015faqlar\u0131n sonrak\u0131 taleyini fikirl\u0259\u015fmirl\u0259r. Bo\u015fand\u0131q, qurtard\u0131, h\u0259r\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131r, v\u0259ssalam. Ancaq bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra t\u0259bii ki, qad\u0131n maddi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259k\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u018fg\u0259r ke\u00e7mi\u015f h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 maddi yard\u0131m etmirs\u0259, yaxud \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn qazanc sah\u0259si yoxdursa, yaxud da qad\u0131n\u0131n ail\u0259si ona sahib \u00e7\u0131xm\u0131rsa\u2026 Bir qayda olaraq ail\u0259l\u0259r da\u011f\u0131ld\u0131qda \u00f6vlad ana il\u0259 qal\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olduqda \u0259n \u00e7ox \u0259ziyy\u0259t y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259 ana \u00e7\u0259kir. Bunun \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 maddi \u00e7\u0259tinlik d\u0259 olarsa, qad\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn lap \u00e7\u0259tin olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ki\u015fi aliment \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 kifay\u0259tl\u0259nm\u0259lidir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 S\u0259hv etmir\u0259ms\u0259, aliment bir u\u015fa\u011fa 154 manat m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n olunub, ancaq vicdan\u0131 olan ki\u015fi, ata \u00f6vlad\u0131na alimentd\u0259n daha \u00e7ox \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259lidir. O d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259lidir ki, \u0259g\u0259r d\u00f6vl\u0259t bu m\u0259bl\u0259\u011fi 154 manat t\u0259yin edibs\u0259, bu o dem\u0259k deyil ki, s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n m\u0259bl\u0259\u011fi u\u015fa\u011fa \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn i\u015fi bitmi\u015f olur. Ata \u00f6z \u00f6vlad\u0131na h\u0259m maddi, h\u0259m m\u0259n\u0259vi dayaq olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bo\u015fanmaq o dem\u0259k deyil ki, atd\u0131m \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131m getdim, qurtard\u0131 h\u0259r \u015fey. S\u0259n anayla xasiyy\u0259tin, xarakterin d\u00fcz g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r, h\u0259tta anaya “d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n” kimi d\u0259 baxa bil\u0259rs\u0259n. Amma bu bir faktd\u0131r ki, bunu tibb elmi d\u0259 s\u00fcbut edib ki, DTN analizi n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 u\u015faq xromosomlar\u0131 50% atadan, 50% anadan g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. Atan\u0131n \u00f6vlad qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131nad\u0259k, \u00f6z\u00fc ayaq \u00fcst\u0259 dayana bil\u0259n\u0259d\u0259k h\u0259m maddi, h\u0259m m\u0259n\u0259vi borcu var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Sevginiz siz\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259t verib?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u0259n he\u00e7 vaxt sevm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s siz kim\u0259s\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259t vermisiniz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bilmir\u0259m, ola bil\u0259r.\u2013 Y\u0259qin ki, arxan\u0131zca s\u00fcr\u00fcn\u0259nl\u0259r olub?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u0130ndi d\u0259 var (g\u00fcl\u00fcr).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s siz fikirl\u0259\u015fmirsiniz ki, onlara \u0259ziyy\u0259t verirsiniz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u0259n ax\u0131, onlara \u015fans, el aras\u0131nda bel\u0259 bir deyim var, \u00fcz verm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ail\u0259lisiniz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259li.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, insan\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox hans\u0131 ya\u015fda sevgiy\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 olur?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u0130nsana sevgi b\u00fct\u00fcn ya\u015flarda laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, insan sevgiy\u0259 layiq m\u0259xluqdur. Biz insanlar n\u0259inki bir-birimizi, t\u0259bi\u0259ti, heyvanlar\u0131, \u0259traf al\u0259mi sevm\u0259liyik. Sevgisiz insan, m\u0259n dey\u0259rdim insan deyil. Sevgisiz insandan cinay\u0259t, pislik, h\u0259r \u015fey g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259k olar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Onda bel\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki, sevgisiz insan d\u0259li kimidir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 D\u0259li kimi dem\u0259zdim, ancaq sevgisiz insan normal psixologiyaya malik deyil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s siz d\u0259 deyirsiniz ax\u0131, sevmirsiz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u0259n sev\u0259 bilm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m, daha do\u011frusu, sevgim\u0259 layiq olan insana rast g\u0259lm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m. Ail\u0259 qursam bel\u0259, d\u0259d\u0259-baba qaydas\u0131yla ail\u0259 qurmu\u015fam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u0130ndiki zamanda el\u0259 evlilikl\u0259r\u0259 nec\u0259 bax\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 O c\u00fcr qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131qlar \u00e7ox olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, valideyn \u00f6vladla raz\u0131la\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u0130nsan sevib ail\u0259 qurmal\u0131d\u0131r, m\u0259n bunun t\u0259r\u0259fdar\u0131yam. \u015e\u0259xs\u0259n m\u0259n \u00f6z \u00f6vladlar\u0131mla ba\u011fl\u0131 indid\u0259n bu haqda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Nec\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz, bizd\u0259 d\u0259 Avropa \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259ki kimi, nigaha kimi 3-4 il birg\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131\u015f olsa, nec\u0259 olar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bizd\u0259 bu psixologiyaya ke\u00e7m\u0259yimiz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t vaxt laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u0130ndi hal-haz\u0131rda inan\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259 milli mentalitet birinci yerd\u0259 dayan\u0131r. Ancaq sizin dediyiniz kimi hallar da var. Uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t bir yerd\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131qdan sonra ail\u0259 qurma\u011fa raz\u0131la\u015fanlar da var. Bizd\u0259 ni\u015fanl\u0131 qalmaq m\u00fcdd\u0259ti var. Bu 6-7 ay m\u00fcdd\u0259tind\u0259 insan\u0131n xarakterini yet\u0259rinc\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 imkan verir. N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r gizlin saxlasa bel\u0259, ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra xarakterd\u0259ki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Bir d\u0259 bir m\u0259qam\u0131 qeyd edim ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259t hiss etmirl\u0259r, ail\u0259ni da\u011f\u0131tmaq \u00e7oxuna asan g\u0259lir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n say\u0131 art\u0131r. Bo\u015fanandan sonra ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131nlara mal-m\u00fclk vermir, alimentin miqdar\u0131 az oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onu \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259k real g\u0259liri olan ki\u015fi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 bir \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t k\u0259sb etmir. Bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ki\u015finin m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti az oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n say\u0131 durmadan art\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, b\u0259s ola bil\u0259rmi ki, bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n bir s\u0259b\u0259bi d\u0259 cinsi z\u0259iflik olsun? Bunu bir h\u0259kim prizmas\u0131ndan t\u0259hlil edin, xahi\u015f edir\u0259m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Yox, m\u0259n bir h\u0259kim kimi bu q\u0259na\u0259tl\u0259 raz\u0131 deyil\u0259m. Ax\u0131, cinsi z\u0259iflik ham\u0131da yoxdur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s n\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f, dul xan\u0131mlar \u0259n \u00e7ox imkanl\u0131 v\u0259 ail\u0259li ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 oturub-durma\u011fa \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Maddi ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn. Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131nlar maddi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 imkanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259, hans\u0131 ki, \u00e7ox pulu var, ona h\u0259r hans\u0131 \u015f\u0259rait qura bil\u0259r, maddi
\u00dclviyy\u0259 M\u0259mm\u0259dova<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Onda bel\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki, sabah pul qurtard\u0131, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t d\u0259 qurtaracaq?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 qurtaracaq. \u00c7\u00fcnki qad\u0131n ona sevgi kimi yox, maddiyyat d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si il\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fm\u0131\u015fd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 B\u0259s siz \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz buna pis bax\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z, yoxsa yax\u015f\u0131 bax\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z, qad\u0131n kimi m\u00f6vqeyinizi bildirin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131ram. H\u0259r \u015fey \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r o qad\u0131n \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n t\u0259hsil alm\u0131\u015f olsayd\u0131, h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir i\u015fin qulpundan yap\u0131\u015f\u0131b \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn karyeras\u0131n\u0131 qurmu\u015f olsayd\u0131, sonra ail\u0259 qurmu\u015f olsayd\u0131, bo\u015fansa bel\u0259, maddiyyat xatirin\u0259 pullu ki\u015fi il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t axtarmazd\u0131. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259, \u0259sas\u0259n k\u0259nd yerl\u0259rind\u0259 18 ya\u015f\u0131 tamam olan kimi q\u0131zlar\u0131 \u0259r\u0259 verirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Dem\u0259k ki, xan\u0131m\u0131n ali t\u0259hsil almas\u0131 m\u00fctl\u0259qdir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u00fctl\u0259q! \u0130st\u0259r q\u0131z, ist\u0259r o\u011flan olsun, t\u0259hsil almal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Lap \u0259g\u0259r t\u0259hsil almasalar da, h\u0259r hans\u0131 pe\u015f\u0259y\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, kimd\u0259ns\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131, ehtiyacl\u0131 olmas\u0131nlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 He\u00e7 e\u015fitm\u0259misiz, rast\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131xmay\u0131b ki, h\u0259min o pullu ki\u015fil\u0259r b\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Tutaq ki, ucqar k\u0259ndd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n bir ail\u0259 \u015f\u0259h\u0259r\u0259 yerl\u0259\u015fir, \u00e7ox kas\u0131b ya\u015fay\u0131rlar v\u0259 ali t\u0259hsili olmayan qad\u0131n i\u015f axtarma\u011fa m\u0259cburdur. O qad\u0131n \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, bir kafed\u0259 v\u0259 restoranda i\u015f tapacaq. V\u0259 m\u0259lum m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir ki, obyekt sahibi imkanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259r pulun \u00e7oxlu\u011fundan \u015forg\u00f6z olurlar. Qad\u0131n restoran sahibiyl\u0259 ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z m\u00fcnasib\u0259t yaran\u0131r v\u0259 t\u0259dric\u0259n ail\u0259d\u0259 soyuqluq yaran\u0131r\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 M\u0259n el\u0259 \u015fey\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131ram. N\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 insan maddiyyata g\u00f6r\u0259 ail\u0259sini da\u011f\u0131tmal\u0131d\u0131r ki? O qad\u0131n k\u0259nd yerind\u0259 ail\u0259sini quranda bilirdi ki, kas\u0131ba \u0259r\u0259 gedir v\u0259 \u015f\u0259h\u0259r\u0259 k\u00f6\u00e7\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259 i\u015f axtarmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, pul qazanmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259lib. Qad\u0131nlarda \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 bel\u0259 hallara yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131ram. El\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259xlaqdan k\u0259nar, ail\u0259li ola-ola ba\u015fqas\u0131yla intim m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131ram. N\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 do\u011frudur ax\u0131, ail\u0259li qad\u0131n\u0131n, yaxud ki\u015finin ba\u015fqa ail\u0259li \u0259ks cinsl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurmas\u0131, \u0259yl\u0259nm\u0259si n\u0259y\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r bu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Son sual\u0131m\u0131 verir\u0259m, bilirsiniz ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 problem yaran\u0131r, bo\u015fanmayla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nir. El\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r var ki, ayr\u0131landa h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259, d\u00f6vl\u0259tin qayda-qanunu il\u0259 ayr\u0131l\u0131rlar, el\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 var ki, \u0259n iyr\u0259nc \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ayr\u0131l\u0131rlar. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, ikisin\u0259 aid sirrl\u0259ri harda g\u0259ldi dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r, i\u015fl\u0259ri polis\u0259 kimi gedir \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra h\u0259r ikisinin, ba\u015f\u0131 da\u015fdan-da\u015fa d\u0259yir v\u0259 ay\u0131l\u0131rlar ki, bar\u0131\u015fmaq ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Sizc\u0259, bel\u0259 c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bar\u0131\u015fandan sonra arada h\u00f6rm\u0259t olacaqm\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Bir \u015feyi deyim ki, kiml\u0259r ki, m\u0259d\u0259ni \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ayr\u0131l\u0131r, onlar el\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259ni olublar. Onlar\u0131n yenid\u0259n bar\u0131\u015fmaq, ail\u0259 \u015f\u0259klind\u0259 bir araya g\u0259lm\u0259si \u015fans\u0131 var. Lakin kim ki, m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259, polis, b\u00f6y\u00fck skandalla ayr\u0131l\u0131b, bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rin, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin bir araya g\u0259lm\u0259si he\u00e7 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t deyil. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar onsuz da bir-birin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etmir v\u0259 birl\u0259\u015fs\u0259l\u0259r, yen\u0259 eyni h\u0259yat\u0131 ya\u015fayacaqlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 D\u00fcz deyil el\u0259 ayr\u0131lmaq?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Ad\u0259t\u0259n m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fclk davas\u0131 gedir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n varsa, ki\u015fi iddia edir, ki\u015fid\u0259 varsa qad\u0131n iddia\u00e7\u0131 olur. \u018fsas m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259 davas\u0131 bundan ibar\u0259t olur. M\u00fclk \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 bo\u015fanan ki\u015fi bir \u015feyi d\u0259rk etm\u0259lidir ki, qad\u0131ndan bo\u015fansa bel\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n anas\u0131d\u0131r, yaxud lap \u00f6vlad\u0131 olmasa bel\u0259, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131d\u0131r, ona n\u0259 is\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259lidir. \u018fg\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fc bunu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrs\u0259, he\u00e7 onunla dan\u0131\u015fmaq, ya\u015famaq m\u0259nas\u0131zd\u0131r. Yen\u0259 deyir\u0259m, bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rin yenid\u0259n bir araya g\u0259lm\u0259si m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t deyil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 S\u0259mimi m\u00fcsahib\u0259niz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox sa\u011f olun, Allah raz\u0131 olsun. M\u0259n dey\u0259rdim ki, m\u0259nim m\u00fcsahibl\u0259rim aras\u0131nda \u0259n s\u0259mimi, \u0259n d\u0259y\u0259rli v\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259y\u0259n m\u00fcsahibl\u0259rd\u0259nsiniz. Obyektiv cavablar\u0131n\u0131z \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox t\u0259\u015f\u0259kk\u00fcr edir\u0259m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u00c7ox sa\u011f olun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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H\u0259kim-Kosmetoloq \u00dclviyy\u0259 M\u0259mm\u0259dovan\u0131n m\u00fcsahib\u0259si. \u2013 Salam, \u00dclviyy\u0259 xan\u0131m, xo\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fck! \u2013 \u018fleyk\u00fcm\u0259 salam, xo\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fck, xo\u015f g\u0259lmisiniz! \u2013 Xo\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259k! Sizc\u0259 qad\u0131n kimdir? \u2013 Qad\u0131n, Allah\u0131n yaratd\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259xluqdur, insand\u0131r, birinci n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259. \u2013 B\u0259s \u0259sl qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r? \u2013 \u018fsl qad\u0131n (g\u00fcl\u00fcr), q\u0259rib\u0259 suald\u0131r, \u0259sl qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r? \u2013 Y\u0259ni ideal qad\u0131n nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r? \u2013 …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9004,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8992","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maqazin"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8992","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8992"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8992\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/9004"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8992"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8992"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8992"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}