{"id":5546,"date":"2023-10-27T06:33:16","date_gmt":"2023-10-27T06:33:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/millinews.az\/xeber\/cinli-analarin-usaq-t%C9%99rbiy%C9%99sind%C9%99-qeyri-adi-usullari\/"},"modified":"2023-10-27T06:33:16","modified_gmt":"2023-10-27T06:33:16","slug":"cinli-analarin-usaq-t%C9%99rbiy%C9%99sind%C9%99-qeyri-adi-usullari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/?p=5546","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7inli analar\u0131n u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 qeyri-adi \u00fcsullar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u00c7in h\u0259yat\u0131n bir \u00e7ox sah\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 inan\u0131lmaz tempd\u0259 inki\u015faf ed\u0259n v\u0259 u\u011furlu n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r \u0259ld\u0259 ed\u0259n bir \u00f6lk\u0259dir. S\u0259mavi \u0130mperiyan\u0131n h\u0259r bir sakininin fantastik z\u0259hm\u0259ti v\u0259 \u0259zmkarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 say\u0259sind\u0259 bu x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r dem\u0259k olar ki, do\u011fu\u015fdan insan\u0131n xarakterin\u0259 k\u00f6k sal\u0131r. U\u015faqlar s\u0259rt qaydalarla b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcl\u00fcr ki, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 h\u0259m ail\u0259sin\u0259, h\u0259m d\u0259 v\u0259t\u0259nin\u0259 xeyrli \u00f6vlad ola bilsin. B\u0259s \u00e7inli analar bunu nec\u0259 edirl\u0259r? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Millinews.az<\/a> <\/strong>oxucular\u0131 \u00e7inlil\u0259rin u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259si il\u0259 maraql\u0131 faktlatla tan\u0131\u015f edir.<\/p>\n

Hamil\u0259lik v\u0259 do\u011fu\u015f<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7inli qad\u0131nlar anal\u0131q m\u0259zuniyy\u0259tinin anal\u0131\u011fa haz\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n vacib bir hiss\u0259si oldu\u011funa inan\u0131rlar, buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn 9 ay \u0259rzind\u0259 istirah\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259, s\u0259yah\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259, s\u0259n\u0259t v\u0259 hobbi il\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Ancaq do\u011fu\u015fdan c\u0259mi bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ay sonra qad\u0131n i\u015f\u0259 qay\u0131d\u0131r. K\u00f6rp\u0259sini ad\u0259t\u0259n n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n birin\u0259 etibar edir v\u0259 ya k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulmu\u015f u\u015faq ba\u011f\u00e7as\u0131na g\u00f6nd\u0259rirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

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Be\u015fikd\u0259n t\u0259lqin edilir<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00f6b\u0259k k\u0259sildiyi andan u\u015fa\u011fa yeridilir ki, birinci v\u0259 \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131 u\u011fur olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, 6 ayl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda k\u00f6rp\u0259 art\u0131q qor\u015foka \u00f6y\u0259rdilir, 1,5 ya\u015f\u0131nda daha m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar, bu da heyr\u0259tamiz n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r verir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, 3 ya\u015f\u0131nda balaca \u00e7inli u\u015faqlar b\u0131\u00e7aqdan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259yi, \u00f6zl\u0259rini yuma\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 di\u015fl\u0259rini vaxt\u0131nda f\u0131r\u00e7alama\u011f\u0131, otaqda t\u0259mizlik etm\u0259yi bilirl\u0259r. 4 ya\u015f\u0131nda bir \u00e7ox u\u015faq art\u0131q yax\u015f\u0131 oxuyub yaza bilir.<\/p>\n

G\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131 il\u0259 g\u00fclm\u0259k<\/strong><\/p>\n

K\u00f6rp\u0259 a\u011flay\u0131rsa, bu o dem\u0259kdir ki, o, sizi manipulyasiya edir – \u00c7inli valideynl\u0259r bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. Odur ki, bizim analar kimi ilk h\u0131\u00e7q\u0131r\u0131q s\u0259sini e\u015fid\u0259n kimi \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n k\u00f6m\u0259yin\u0259 qa\u00e7ma\u011fa t\u0259l\u0259smirl\u0259r. \u00c7inli ana \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 t\u0259xmin\u0259n 15 d\u0259qiq\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k, bunun manipulyasiya ehtimal\u0131 olub-olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ed\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 yaln\u0131z sonra problemin h\u0259llini axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flayacaq.<\/p>\n

2 ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atanda is\u0259 evd\u0259 g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131na \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, m\u0259h\u0259l qoyulmur: k\u00f6rp\u0259 g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131na bo\u011fulubsa, \u00f6z\u00fc valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fmal\u0131 v\u0259 bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bini izah etm\u0259lidir. \u00c7ind\u0259 ancaq t\u0259b\u0259ss\u00fcm v\u0259 xo\u015f \u0259hval-ruhiyy\u0259 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilir.<\/p>\n

Se\u00e7im etm\u0259k \u015fans\u0131ndan m\u0259hrum olurlar <\/strong><\/p>\n

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3 ya\u015f\u0131ndan etibar\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u0259lav\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011fuliyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259si t\u0259l\u0259b olunur v\u0259 \u0259lav\u0259 d\u0259rsl\u0259rl\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259nir. Mahn\u0131, r\u0259sm, musiqi m\u0259kt\u0259bi, idman d\u0259rn\u0259kl\u0259ri, dan\u0131\u015f\u0131q d\u0259rn\u0259kl\u0259ri y\u00fcks\u0259k qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilir.<\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n n\u0259 il\u0259 maraqlanaca\u011f\u0131na yaln\u0131z ana q\u0259rar verir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u201cP\u0259l\u0259ng anas\u0131n\u0131n d\u00f6y\u00fc\u015f f\u0259ryad\u0131\u201d kitab\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259llifi Emi \u00c7ua q\u0131z\u0131na pianodan ba\u015fqa bir \u015feyl\u0259 maraqlanma\u011f\u0131 qada\u011fan etmi\u015fdi. Q\u0131z h\u0259tta Yeni il v\u0259 ad g\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259diyy\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n m\u0259hrum oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn musiqi al\u0259tini s\u0131nd\u0131rma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da, t\u0259l\u0259b olunan par\u00e7an\u0131 m\u0259cbur\u0259n \u00f6yr\u0259nib.<\/p>\n

S\u0259rt nizam-intizam<\/strong><\/p>\n

6 ya\u015f\u0131ndan etibar\u0259n \u00e7inli u\u015faqlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131ndan daha a\u011f\u0131r bir m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r: oyanmaq, yem\u0259k, m\u0259kt\u0259b, \u0259lav\u0259 d\u0259rsl\u0259r, ev tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u015fam yem\u0259yi v\u0259 yatmaq. Bel\u0259 bir s\u0259rt rejim u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n parlaq g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yinin formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259ndirilir.<\/p>\n

Qeyd ed\u0259k ki, \u0259halisinin bu q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox oldu\u011fu \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259, \u015fidd\u0259tli r\u0259qab\u0259tin \u00e7i\u00e7\u0259kl\u0259ndiyi bir yerd\u0259 t\u0259nb\u0259ll\u0259r\u0259 v\u0259 m\u00fcft\u0259xorlara yer yoxdur.<\/p>\n

U\u015faqlar bu q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 m\u0259ruz qalmalar\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259nm\u0259l\u0259rinin s\u0259b\u0259bini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r, buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r q\u0259tiyy\u0259tli olma\u011fa v\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n ist\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t verm\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur olurlar.<\/p>\n

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\u0130lk be\u015flikd\u0259 yer almal\u0131san<\/strong><\/p>\n

“S\u0131naqda 100 baldan 100 bal toplama\u011f\u0131ma baxmayaraq, “Daha \u00e7ox bal y\u0131\u011fa bilm\u0259zdin?” dey\u0259 anam soru\u015fard\u0131”.<\/p>\n

Emi \u00c7uan\u0131n kitab\u0131ndan ba\u015fqa bir sitat valideynl\u0259rin u\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259hsilin\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259l \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 t\u0259svir edir. \u018fg\u0259r u\u015faq a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 qiym\u0259t al\u0131bsa, o zaman \u00e7inli ana m\u00fc\u0259llimi g\u00fcnahland\u0131rm\u0131r, u\u011fursuzlu\u011fu \u00f6z u\u011fursuzlu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul edir v\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7qat canf\u0259\u015fanl\u0131qla d\u0259rsl\u0259ri v\u0259 \u015fagirdin ev tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yoxlama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

M\u0259kt\u0259bin sevimlil\u0259ri yoxdur<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 v\u0259 universitetl\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259r h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259 bilikl\u0259rin universal s\u0259viyy\u0259sin\u0259 nail olma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Sevimli \u015fagirdl\u0259r v\u0259 ya d\u0259rsd\u0259n yay\u0131nanlar olmayacaq. \u018fg\u0259r \u015fagird m\u0259kt\u0259b proqram\u0131nda yax\u015f\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rmirs\u0259, o zaman ham\u0131 imtahandan \u0259la qiym\u0259tl\u0259rl\u0259 ke\u00e7\u0259n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00fct\u00fcn sinif m\u00f6vzunu t\u0259krarlayacaq.<\/p>\n

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Valideynl\u0259r\u0259 \u0259b\u0259di minn\u0259tdarl\u0131q<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7inli valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vlad\u0131na t\u0259hsil verm\u0259yi v\u0259 liderlik keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini a\u015f\u0131lama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6z v\u0259zif\u0259si hesab edirl\u0259r. Onlar\u0131n s\u0259yl\u0259ri o q\u0259d\u0259r s\u0259rtdir ki, b\u0259z\u0259n z\u00fclm\u0259 \u0259l at\u0131rlar. Bununla bel\u0259 u\u015faqlar onlara h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 minn\u0259tdar olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

T\u0259hsild\u0259 u\u011fur qazanmaq, anan\u0131n dediyi yerd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259k, b\u0259y\u0259ndiyi \u0259ri se\u00e7m\u0259k v\u0259 vaxt\u0131nda u\u015faq sahibi olmaq – \u00c7ind\u0259 bu h\u0259yat modeli normal hesab olunur. M\u00fcasir g\u0259ncl\u0259r h\u0259yat t\u0259rzl\u0259rini d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259, h\u0259yatlar\u0131n\u0131 nec\u0259 ya\u015fayacaqlar\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7m\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar, lakin \u0259cdadlar\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0259t-\u0259n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259ri v\u0259 h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 \u00e7ox g\u00fccl\u00fcd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

B\u0259li, \u00c7ind\u0259 valideyn-\u00f6vlad \u00f6hd\u0259likl\u0259ri v\u0259 \u00c7in t\u0259hsil \u00fcsullar\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n maraqlar\u0131na v\u0259 duy\u011fular\u0131na sevgi, s\u0259br v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259ti a\u015f\u0131layan m\u00fcasir v\u0259 \u015f\u00fcurlu valideynlik prinsipl\u0259ri il\u0259 ziddiyy\u0259t t\u0259\u015fkil edir. Lakin etiraf ed\u0259k ki, u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 bel\u0259 bir yana\u015fma x\u00fcsusil\u0259 ya\u015fl\u0131 n\u0259sil \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yad deyil.<\/p>\n

Ayt\u0259n M\u0259ftun<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n