{"id":23222,"date":"2026-05-13T10:09:31","date_gmt":"2026-05-13T10:09:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/?p=23222"},"modified":"2026-05-13T10:09:32","modified_gmt":"2026-05-13T10:09:32","slug":"nigar-f%c9%99rhaddan-qalmaqalli-aciqlama-qazanmayan-kisi-sev%c9%99-bil%c9%99rmi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/?p=23222","title":{"rendered":"Nigar F\u0259rhaddan qalmaqall\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131qlama – Qazanmayan ki\u015fi sev\u0259 bil\u0259rmi?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cM\u0259n\u0259 yen\u0259 provokativ bir sual g\u0259lib v\u0259 onu cavabland\u0131rma\u011fa m\u0259cburam. Sual bel\u0259dir: qazanmayan ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 ola bil\u0259rmi? A\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131, bilmir\u0259m yen\u0259 dilimin b\u0259las\u0131na d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m, ya yox, amma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc dem\u0259liy\u0259m\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Publika.az\u00a0x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, bu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri apar\u0131c\u0131 Nigar F\u0259rhad deyib.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O bildirib ki, qad\u0131n qazansa da, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 maddi y\u00fck\u00fcn \u0259sas hiss\u0259si ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259lidir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cM\u0259nc\u0259, sual bel\u0259 qoyulmamal\u0131d\u0131r: qazanmayan ki\u015fi sev\u0259 bil\u0259rmi, ya\u015faya bil\u0259rmi, normal insan ola bil\u0259rmi? \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, ola bil\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki insan\u0131n qazanmamas\u0131 b\u0259z\u0259n onun t\u0259nb\u0259lliyind\u0259n yox, h\u0259yat \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rind\u0259n qaynaqlan\u0131r. \u0130\u015f tapa bilmir, \u00e7\u0259tinlik ya\u015fay\u0131r, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n probleml\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7ir. Y\u0259ni \u201cqazanmayan\u201d statusunun da bir s\u0259b\u0259bi, bir tarix\u00e7\u0259si var.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amma sual konkret m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131rsa, m\u0259nim \u015f\u0259xsi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259m\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. M\u00fcnasib\u0259tin i\u00e7ind\u0259 ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u0259n b\u0259zi y\u00fckl\u0259r var v\u0259 h\u0259min y\u00fckl\u0259ri da\u015f\u0131maq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n maddi sabitlik d\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, tamamil\u0259 qazanc\u0131 olmayan bir ki\u015finin m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti sa\u011flam \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 davam etdirm\u0259si \u00e7\u0259tin ola bil\u0259r \u00c7\u00fcnki m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 bir ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 \u00e7ox m\u0259suliyy\u0259t d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0259n burada bahal\u0131 restoranlardan, bahal\u0131 h\u0259diyy\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n v\u0259 ya l\u00fcks s\u0259yah\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131ram. S\u00f6hb\u0259t \u0259n minimal m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n gedir. \u0130ngilisc\u0259d\u0259 \u201cbare minimum\u201d deyil\u0259n bir anlay\u0131\u015f var, y\u0259ni ki\u015finin m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 qad\u0131na g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259li oldu\u011fu \u0259n sad\u0259 diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nigar F\u0259rhad son d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u0259n\u0259n\u0259vi rollar\u0131n d\u0259yi\u015fdiyini vur\u011fulay\u0131b:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cQad\u0131na diqq\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k, onun m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 qar\u015f\u0131lamaq ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u0259n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tdir. T\u0259bii ki, qad\u0131n\u0131n da \u00f6z m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti var. Qad\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259min ed\u0259 bil\u0259r, i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r, qazanar. Amma qad\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259zif\u0259si ki\u015fini saxlamaq deyil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ki\u015finin is\u0259 qad\u0131na qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259si, onu xo\u015fb\u0259xt etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 vacib amill\u0259rd\u0259ndir. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 qazanmayan bir ki\u015finin m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti sa\u011flam \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 davam etdirm\u0259si \u00e7\u0259tin olur. \u00c7\u00fcnki maddi imkan olmayanda qad\u0131n\u0131 xo\u015fb\u0259xt etm\u0259k d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinl\u0259\u015fir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u0259li, el\u0259 qad\u0131nlar ola bil\u0259r ki, \u201ceybi yoxdur, m\u0259n h\u0259r \u00e7\u0259tinliy\u0259 d\u00f6z\u0259r\u0259m\u201d desin. Amma reall\u0131q budur ki, he\u00e7 bir qad\u0131n daim s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131 i\u00e7ind\u0259 olmaqdan xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmur. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 maddi m\u0259suliyy\u0259t daha \u00e7ox ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Ki\u015fi i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259li, qazanmal\u0131 v\u0259 h\u0259m \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc, h\u0259m d\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini ayaqda saxlama\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, qazanan qad\u0131nla qazanan ki\u015finin f\u0259rqi var. Qad\u0131n daha \u00e7ox \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qazan\u0131r, ki\u015fi is\u0259 h\u0259m \u00f6z\u00fc, h\u0259m d\u0259 sevdiyi qad\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qazanma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amma indiki d\u00f6vrd\u0259 b\u0259zi \u015feyl\u0259r d\u0259yi\u015fib. M\u0259n\u0259 \u00e7ox qad\u0131n yaz\u0131r v\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131mda da bunu tez-tez m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 edir\u0259m. Art\u0131q bir \u00e7ox hallarda qad\u0131n ki\u015fiy\u0259 daha \u00e7ox x\u0259rc \u00e7\u0259kir, n\u0259inki ki\u015fi qad\u0131na.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0259nim tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131n var ki, \u00f6z probleml\u0259rini ki\u015fiy\u0259 dem\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fc h\u0259ll edir. Borcu olur, \u00e7\u0259tinliyi olur, amma bunu qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 qoymur. Dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n is\u0259 b\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131nlara tez-tez maddi probleml\u0259rind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 h\u0259tta b\u0259zi x\u0259rcl\u0259rini qad\u0131n\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131lamas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259yirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sevgi olan yerd\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 d\u0259st\u0259k t\u0259bii ki, problem deyil. Amma b\u0259zi hallarda sanki rollar d\u0259yi\u015fib. \u0130ndi qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fid\u0259n n\u0259s\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 utan\u0131r, amma b\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131ndan rahat \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 n\u0259 is\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b ed\u0259 bilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Qad\u0131nlar\u0131n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mesajlarda da bunu g\u00f6rm\u0259k olur. Bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131n n\u0259 is\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kinir. Halbuki m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 qad\u0131n da \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qad\u0131n kimi hiss etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018fg\u0259r bir ki\u015fi qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 qad\u0131na qad\u0131n kimi yana\u015fm\u0131rsa, ondan nec\u0259 ki\u015fi kimi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r? Bu m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. Qad\u0131n da \u0259traf\u0131na bax\u0131r, ba\u015fqa m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri g\u00f6r\u00fcr v\u0259 ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edir. \u201cBa\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 bel\u0259 davran\u0131r, bel\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rir.(\u201cYeni Sabah\u201d)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cM\u0259n\u0259 yen\u0259 provokativ bir sual g\u0259lib v\u0259 onu cavabland\u0131rma\u011fa m\u0259cburam. Sual bel\u0259dir: qazanmayan ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 ola bil\u0259rmi? A\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131, bilmir\u0259m yen\u0259 dilimin b\u0259las\u0131na d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m, ya yox, amma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc dem\u0259liy\u0259m\u201d. Publika.az\u00a0x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, bu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri apar\u0131c\u0131 Nigar F\u0259rhad deyib. O bildirib ki, qad\u0131n qazansa da, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 maddi y\u00fck\u00fcn \u0259sas hiss\u0259si ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259lidir: \u201cM\u0259nc\u0259, sual bel\u0259 qoyulmamal\u0131d\u0131r: …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23223,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23222","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-idman"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23222","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=23222"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23222\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23224,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23222\/revisions\/23224"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/23223"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=23222"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=23222"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=23222"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}