{"id":16394,"date":"2024-11-18T13:34:02","date_gmt":"2024-11-18T13:34:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/?p=16394"},"modified":"2024-11-18T13:34:07","modified_gmt":"2024-11-18T13:34:07","slug":"kisil%C9%99rin-bir-banka-qatiqdan-f%C9%99rqi-yoxdur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/?p=16394","title":{"rendered":"“Ki\u015fil\u0259rin bir banka qat\u0131qdan f\u0259rqi yoxdur!”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kulis.az F\u0259rid\u0259nin yeni yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259qdim edir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00fcnya aliml\u0259ri, “\u0130svi\u00e7 bilim adamlar\u0131”, ara\u015fd\u0131rma m\u0259rk\u0259zl\u0259ri, yaz\u0131\u00e7\u0131lar, psixoloqlar, f\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259\u00e7il\u0259r \u2013 b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnya ill\u0259rdir \u0259lbir olub “qad\u0131nlar n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?” sual\u0131na cavab axtar\u0131r. Az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 qad\u0131nlar olaraq biz is\u0259 “ki\u015fil\u0259r n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?” sual\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259nd\u0259v\u0259rind\u0259 girinc qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130ndi siz\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rimi he\u00e7 bir psixoloq, a\u011fsaqqal, m\u00fcdrik quru bel\u0259 dem\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Niy\u0259 \u2013 \u00e7\u00fcnki d\u00fcnyada el\u0259 m\u0259tl\u0259bl\u0259r var ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r onlardan \u0259sla x\u0259b\u0259rdar olmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

El\u0259 h\u0259qiq\u0259tl\u0259r var ki, ki\u015fi onlar\u0131 bils\u0259, \u00e7\u00f6k\u0259r. S\u0259hralara \u00fcz tutar, me\u015f\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kil\u0259r, ma\u011faraya geri d\u00f6n\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u0259s n\u0259? Eqosu z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259n\u0259n ki\u015fi d\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0259n k\u00f6m\u0259ksiz, \u0259n aciz canl\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r ax\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ki\u015fi z\u0259if, m\u0131y-m\u0131y, aciz olsa, onda qad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fama\u011fa stimulu qalm\u0131r ax\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, tarix boyu a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 cinsda\u015flar\u0131m h\u0259r \u0259zaba d\u00f6z\u00fcb, sin\u0259 g\u0259ribl\u0259r ki, “ki\u015fi” obraz\u0131 \u0259z\u0259m\u0259tini itirm\u0259sin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Davam\u0131za, m\u00fcharib\u0259miz\u0259, m\u00fcbariz\u0259miz\u0259 m\u0259na qazand\u0131rmaq namin\u0259dir b\u00fct\u00fcn bu m\u0259\u015f\u0259qq\u0259t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u0259d\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131m ayd\u0131n olsun dey\u0259 konkret problemi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m indi siz\u0259.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bilirsiniz ki, bo\u015f vaxt tapan kimi sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131n qruplar\u0131na girib q\u0131zlar\u0131n statuslar\u0131n\u0131, \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259rini oxuyur, probleml\u0259riyl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olur, bildiyim, bilm\u0259diyim m\u00f6vzularda fikir bildirir, d\u0259st\u0259k olma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131ram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu qruplarda g\u00fcn\u00fcn m\u0259nz\u0259r\u0259si \u00e7ox ayd\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r daha \u00e7ox al\u0131\u015f-veri\u015f, plastik \u0259m\u0259liyyat h\u0259kiml\u0259ri, qay\u0131nana-g\u0259lin, g\u0259lin-bald\u0131z probleml\u0259ri kimi m\u00f6vzulara toxunulurdusa, son d\u00f6vrl\u0259rin birc\u0259 aktual problemi var: ki\u015fil\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u0259r g\u00fcn m\u00fctl\u0259q bu m\u00f6vzuda status g\u00f6rm\u0259k olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problem n\u0259dir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259rin n\u0259 ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini tapa bilmirik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bizi sevgisizlik, maddiyyat\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q, f\u00fcrs\u0259t\u00e7illik, s\u0259daq\u0259tsizlikd\u0259 ittiham ed\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259ri n\u0259 ist\u0259yir b\u0259s?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u0259yat\u0131nda onu sev\u0259n, d\u0259y\u0259r ver\u0259n bir qad\u0131n oldu\u011fu halda niy\u0259 “doymurlar”?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Biriyl\u0259 evl\u0259nirl\u0259r, biriyl\u0259 sevgili olurlar, biriyl\u0259 dost, biriyl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Orta statistik h\u0259r ki\u015finin ba\u015f\u0131nda bir topa qad\u0131n d\u0259st\u0259si var, ay qarda\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 (sevgilisi) d\u0259 bilmir kiml\u0259 d\u00f6y\u00fc\u015fs\u00fcn, d\u0259rdini kim\u0259 desin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ham\u0131ya maraql\u0131d\u0131r ki, niy\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r \u0259traflar\u0131na bu q\u0259d\u0259r qad\u0131n y\u0131\u011f\u0131r? Bir qad\u0131nda tapmay\u0131b be\u015f qad\u0131nda axtard\u0131\u011f\u0131 n\u0259dir? Bunun n\u0259 oldu\u011funu bils\u0259k, b\u0259lk\u0259, bir az \u00fcr\u0259yimiz dinc\u0259l\u0259r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018fmin olun ki, n\u0259 axtard\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zl\u0259ri d\u0259 bilmir, amma m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 bu deyil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Niy\u0259 bel\u0259 olur?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evli v\u0259 ya sevgilisi olan ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259traf\u0131na niy\u0259 \u00e7ox qad\u0131n y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu ki\u015fi o qad\u0131nlardan, yaxud da o qad\u0131nlar bu ki\u015fid\u0259n n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu halda \u0259n m\u0259ntiqli \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu n\u0259dir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar\u0131xmay\u0131n, b\u00fct\u00fcn cavablar m\u0259nd\u0259dir. \u00d6z\u00fc d\u0259, bu cavablar\u0131 havadan \u00fcf\u00fcrm\u00fcr\u0259m ha, oxudu\u011fum, ara\u015fd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m m\u0259nb\u0259l\u0259r, yar\u0131m-yamalaq t\u0259rc\u00fcm\u0259l\u0259rim, avtobusda, qatarda dald\u0131\u011f\u0131m d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rim n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 \u00fcmumil\u0259\u015fdirib ortaya \u00e7\u0131xard\u0131\u011f\u0131m m\u0259tl\u0259bl\u0259rdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018fvv\u0259lc\u0259, ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir h\u0259qiq\u0259t:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018ftraf\u0131n\u0131zda, h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131zda \u00e7oxlu qad\u0131nlar varsa, bunun sizinl\u0259 he\u00e7 bir \u0259laq\u0259si yoxdur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259diniz, h\u0259?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y\u0259ni, \u0259traf\u0131n\u0131zda qad\u0131n \u00e7oxdursa, s\u0259b\u0259b sizin m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259lliyiniz, t\u0259krarolunmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, \u0259l\u0259d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259zliyiniz deyil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sizinl\u0259 uzun-uzad\u0131 dan\u0131\u015fmaq fikrim yoxdur, m\u0259nim m\u0259qs\u0259dim qad\u0131nlar\u0131 maarifl\u0259ndirm\u0259kdir, ist\u0259s\u0259niz, burdan o yana he\u00e7 oxumay\u0131n, oxuduqlar\u0131n\u0131z xo\u015funuza g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k \u00e7\u00fcnki.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u0259 is\u0259.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bac\u0131lar\u0131m, t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr edin ki, bir d\u00fckana girmisiniz. Ortada bir geyim as\u0131l\u0131b v\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn al\u0131c\u0131lar o geyimin \u0259traf\u0131na topla\u015f\u0131b. H\u0259r\u0259 bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n \u0259ll\u0259\u015fdirir, qald\u0131r\u0131b-qoyur, etiketin\u0259, material\u0131na bax\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Qeyri-ixtiyari olaraq ayaqlar\u0131n\u0131z sizi ora \u00e7\u0259k\u0259c\u0259k. Siz d\u0259 izdiham\u0131 yar\u0131b o paltara baxmaq ist\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. \u018fn az\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ya da, bazara girmisiniz, s\u0259s-k\u00fcy, bal\u0131q qoxusu, pendir iyini yara-yara g\u00f6y\u0259rti “otdel”-in\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259f gedirsiniz, bird\u0259n g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz ki, pi\u015ftaxtan\u0131n birind\u0259 adamlar topala\u015f\u0131b. Ortada da bir banka qat\u0131q.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adama maraql\u0131 g\u0259lir ax\u0131. O q\u0259d\u0259r adam bir banka qat\u0131\u011f\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131bsa, dem\u0259k, adi qat\u0131q deyil. N\u0259s\u0259 var. Yen\u0259, \u0259n az\u0131, maraq namin\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131b baxacaqs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u0259l\u0259 bir qad\u0131n da “ay xan\u0131m, \u00e7\u0259kil, biz d\u0259 baxaq” des\u0259, v\u0259ssalam. Q\u0131r\u011f\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259k. S\u0131rf o qad\u0131n\u0131n ac\u0131\u011f\u0131na o qat\u0131q bankas\u0131n\u0131 alma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaqsan. He\u00e7 dad\u0131na baxmayacaqsan, ehtiyac\u0131n olub-olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n d\u0259.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u0259li, c\u0259nablar, bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 sizin d\u0259 bir banka qat\u0131qdan he\u00e7 bir f\u0259rqiniz yoxdur. Y\u0259ni, qad\u0131nlar sizin u\u011frunuzda m\u00fcbariz\u0259 apar\u0131rsa burda sizlik bir \u015fey yoxdur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q\u0131zlar, \u0259g\u0259r sevdiyiniz adam\u0131n \u0259traf\u0131nda sizd\u0259n ba\u015fqa da qad\u0131nlar varsa, q\u0259tiyy\u0259n sevgi namin\u0259, ki\u015fi u\u011frunda o qad\u0131nlarla m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparmaq kimi bir s\u0259hv\u0259 yol verm\u0259yin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siz dig\u0259r qad\u0131nlarla m\u00fcbariz\u0259 apar\u0131b, bir yandan da ki\u015fini n\u0259zar\u0259td\u0259 saxlama\u011fa c\u0259hd etdikc\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 ki\u015fi \u00f6z\u00fc, sonra da o b\u00f6y\u00fcr-ba\u015fdak\u0131 xan\u0131mlar el\u0259 bilirl\u0259r ki, bu adam \u00e7ox d\u0259y\u0259rli, \u0259l\u0259d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259z, b\u0259nz\u0259rsiz biridir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Qad\u0131nlar da q\u0131z\u0131\u015f\u0131r, ham\u0131 bu d\u0259y\u0259rli tik\u0259ni qazanma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ki\u015fi o yandan eqo tavan, m\u0259nd\u0259n yoxdu havalar\u0131 filan. Sizi saym\u0131r h\u0259tta daha.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u018ftrafda p\u0259rvan\u0259l\u0259r \u00e7oxdu ax\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u0259n strateji add\u0131m sakitc\u0259 geri \u00e7\u0259kilm\u0259kdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sakitc\u0259 bir add\u0131m geri \u00e7\u0259kilin v\u0259 ki\u015finin quzu balas\u0131 kimi, t\u0131p\u0131\u015f-t\u0131p\u0131\u015f g\u0259lm\u0259yini g\u00f6zl\u0259yin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130stisnas\u0131z bel\u0259 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0259rvan\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr s\u0259n m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparm\u0131rsan, deyirl\u0259r, bu ki\u015fi matah bir \u015fey olsa o qad\u0131n \u0259lini \u00e7\u0259kib getm\u0259zdi, da\u011f\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131b gedirl\u0259r ba\u015fqa d\u0259y\u0259rli obyekt tapma\u011fa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unutmay\u0131n, bazar iqtisadiyyat\u0131nda bir qanun da var: t\u0259l\u0259b yoxdursa, mal d\u0259y\u0259rini itirir. Ucuzla\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7\u0259kilin ki, ucuzla\u015fs\u0131nlar. Ya da, \u0259sl d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri bilinsin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259r, sizs\u0259 \u00f6n\u0259mli bir n\u00fcans\u0131 g\u00f6zard\u0131 etm\u0259yin: \u0130stisnas\u0131z b\u00fct\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar h\u0259yat\u0131ndak\u0131 qad\u0131na sadiq ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 x\u00fcsusi r\u0259\u011fb\u0259t, simpatiya b\u0259sl\u0259yirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Kulis.az F\u0259rid\u0259nin yeni yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259qdim edir. D\u00fcnya aliml\u0259ri, “\u0130svi\u00e7 bilim adamlar\u0131”, ara\u015fd\u0131rma m\u0259rk\u0259zl\u0259ri, yaz\u0131\u00e7\u0131lar, psixoloqlar, f\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259\u00e7il\u0259r \u2013 b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnya ill\u0259rdir \u0259lbir olub “qad\u0131nlar n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?” sual\u0131na cavab axtar\u0131r. Az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 qad\u0131nlar olaraq biz is\u0259 “ki\u015fil\u0259r n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?” sual\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259nd\u0259v\u0259rind\u0259 girinc qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. \u0130ndi siz\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rimi he\u00e7 bir psixoloq, a\u011fsaqqal, m\u00fcdrik quru bel\u0259 dem\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Niy\u0259 \u2013 \u00e7\u00fcnki d\u00fcnyada …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":16395,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16394","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maqazin","category-olke"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=16394"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16394\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16396,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16394\/revisions\/16396"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/16395"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=16394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=16394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=16394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}