M\u00fcasir d\u00f6vrd\u0259 ya\u015fasaq da, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259qamlar var ki, ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259kind\u0259n daha z\u0259r\u0259rli formada \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. Bunlardan biri d\u0259 qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nliyidir. S\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n problem \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259kc\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin qad\u0131nlara olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259 yox, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6z h\u0259mcinsl\u0259ri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n d\u0259 t\u0259kl\u0259nm\u0259si, haqs\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011framas\u0131 kimi m\u0259qamlarda b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259s bununla nec\u0259 m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparmaq olar? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psixoloq \u0130lham\u0259 Mustafayeva m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin psixoloji s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini \u201cYeni Sabah\u201da bel\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131qlay\u0131b: \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cT\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259r olsun ki, bu g\u00fcn m\u00fcasir c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 mizogeniya – qad\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 olmaq, onun \u0259leyhin\u0259 olmaq, \u015fidd\u0259t, d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n\u00e7ilik v\u0259 t\u0259zyiql\u0259r h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 var. Bu \u015fidd\u0259t b\u00fct\u00fcn n\u00f6vl\u0259ri il\u0259, fiziki, psixoloji, sosial v\u0259 iqtisadi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bu v\u0259 ya dig\u0259r \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259kd\u0259dir. Bunun \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi kollektiv \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dard\u0131r. Lap \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259rd\u0259n qad\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsiz m\u00fcnasib\u0259t olub, q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lm\u0259si \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259d\u0259n xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z hal hesab olunub, ona ail\u0259nin n\u0259 vaxtsa evi t\u0259rk edib getm\u0259li olan, art\u0131q \u00fczv\u00fc kimi bax\u0131l\u0131b. Bu yana\u015fma n\u0259sill\u0259rd\u0259n n\u0259sl\u0259 ke\u00e7ib, bu g\u00fcn d\u0259 \u00f6z \u201cm\u0259hsulunu\u201d hans\u0131sa ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 verir. Qad\u0131na ki\u015finin qullu\u011funda durub, ona qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n, \u0259yl\u0259ndir\u0259n varl\u0131q kimi bax\u0131l\u0131b. Qad\u0131n yarad\u0131c\u0131 varl\u0131qd\u0131r. O, d\u00fcnyaya u\u015faq g\u0259tirir, onu 9 ay b\u0259tnind\u0259 inki\u015faf etdirir, sonra onu b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcr, m\u0259i\u015f\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00e7iyinl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr v\u0259 s. v\u0259 bu da ki\u015finin konfort zonas\u0131n\u0131 yaratd\u0131 v\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259d\u0259n ki\u015finin d\u0259y\u0259ri o q\u0259d\u0259r y\u00fcks\u0259k qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilib ki, sanki bunlar qad\u0131n\u0131n borcudur, o, bel\u0259 d\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131 v\u0259 \u00fcst\u0259lik d\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r zaman v\u0259 enerji s\u0259rf etdiyi i\u015fl\u0259rin \u0259v\u0259zind\u0259 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilm\u0259m\u0259lidir. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, qad\u0131n d\u0259y\u0259rli v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tli olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ba\u015fqa sah\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z f\u0259aliyy\u0259tini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qoruma\u011fa, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n qarn\u0131n\u0131 doyuzdurma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131. Bu da ki\u015fil\u0259rin q\u0259z\u0259bin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b oldu. Qad\u0131n da ki\u015fi kimi ev\u0259 qazanc g\u0259tirm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r v\u0259 sosial statusa sahib oldu. O, art\u0131q ki\u015finin \u0259\u015fyas\u0131 olmaq funksiyas\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131 v\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r h\u00fcq\u00fcqlara sahib olmaq ist\u0259di v\u0259 bundan hidd\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa, ona \u015fidd\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259, h\u0259tta \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u0259y\u0259 \u0259l atd\u0131lar. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar\u0131n kollektiv \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131s\u0131 qad\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259 tabe olmal\u0131d\u0131r deyir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn d\u0259y\u0259rli v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tli olmas\u0131n\u0131 hissetm\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bat\u0131 yarand\u0131. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, c\u0259miyy\u0259t onun qad\u0131n kimi etdikl\u0259rin\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verm\u0259di, \u00fcst\u0259lik a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lad\u0131. Bu da ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n m\u00fcharib\u0259sin\u0259 z\u0259min yaratd\u0131. Dig\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 qad\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 g\u00fcv\u0259nsizlikdir. \u00c7\u00fcnki c\u0259miyy\u0259t h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 ki\u015fiy\u0259 etibar edib onun idar\u0259\u00e7iliyi alt\u0131nda olmaq ist\u0259yib. M\u0259hz bu s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131 ki\u015fi qad\u0131n\u0131 al\u00e7altma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psixoloq qad\u0131nlar\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 m\u0259nfi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259n d\u0259 s\u00f6z a\u00e7\u0131b:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cB\u0259s qad\u0131n niy\u0259 qad\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ndir? Bu inanca dayanan bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. Qad\u0131ndan qad\u0131na dost olmaz inanc\u0131 o q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0259libl\u0259\u015fib ki, qad\u0131n bu bax\u0131\u015f buca\u011f\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b ba\u015fqa \u015feyl\u0259ri g\u00f6r\u0259 bilm\u0259yib. Bu, yana\u015fma da ki\u015finin d\u0259y\u0259rinin y\u00fcks\u0259k tutulmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olub. Qad\u0131n yaln\u0131z \u0259r\u0259 ged\u0259rs\u0259, yan\u0131nda ki\u015fi olarsa xo\u015fb\u0259xt olar. O, t\u0259kdirs\u0259, yiy\u0259sizdir psixologiyas\u0131 var. M\u0259hz bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 qad\u0131n qad\u0131na h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 r\u0259qib kimi bax\u0131b. \u015e\u00fcuralt\u0131 olaraq o, h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 ki\u015fini itirm\u0259 qorxusu ya\u015fay\u0131b. Ki\u015fim ona baxar, ona ged\u0259r, ona maraql\u0131 olar, \u0259rimi \u0259limd\u0259n alar v\u0259 s. qorxular qad\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn psixikas\u0131n\u0131 darmada\u011f\u0131n edib, O, \u00f6z d\u0259y\u0259rini v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tini yaln\u0131z yan\u0131nda ki\u015fi olanda hiss edir. Ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr he\u00e7 kimdir, laz\u0131ms\u0131zd\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259n v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259nin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Bu problemin h\u0259lli \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verm\u0259kd\u0259n v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc adekvat qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc bir \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t kimi g\u00f6rm\u0259k v\u0259 ki\u015fid\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq \u00f6z d\u0259y\u0259rini hiss etm\u0259k yet\u0259rlidir. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u0259 icaz\u0259 verm\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 icaz\u0259 verilm\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131n ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nda n\u0259 is\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 ona qar\u015f\u0131 g\u0259lir, t\u0259nqid edir v\u0259 s. lakin \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bu deyil. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn psixoloji as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131qlar\u0131ndan azad olaraq, sa\u011flam psixikal\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t\u0259 qovu\u015fmaqd\u0131r\u201d. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
M\u00fcasir d\u00f6vrd\u0259 ya\u015fasaq da, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259qamlar var ki, ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259kind\u0259n daha z\u0259r\u0259rli formada \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. Bunlardan biri d\u0259 qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nliyidir. S\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n problem \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259kc\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin qad\u0131nlara olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259 yox, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6z h\u0259mcinsl\u0259ri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n d\u0259 t\u0259kl\u0259nm\u0259si, haqs\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011framas\u0131 kimi m\u0259qamlarda b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. B\u0259s bununla nec\u0259 m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparmaq olar? Psixoloq \u0130lham\u0259 Mustafayeva m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin psixoloji s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini \u201cYeni Sabah\u201da …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15719,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15718","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maqazin"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15718","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15718"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15718\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15720,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15718\/revisions\/15720"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/15719"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}