Uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259tdir ki, insanlar dostluq v\u0259 sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini virtual arenada qurma\u011fa \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verir. G\u00fcn\u00fc-g\u00fcnd\u0259n artan v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n insanlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131 bahas\u0131na ba\u015fa g\u0259l\u0259n \u015fantaj hallar\u0131 el\u0259 m\u0259hz sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259n edil\u0259n tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qlarda ya\u015fan\u0131r. Qurbanlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti is\u0259 qad\u0131nlard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259r virtual al\u0259md\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olduqlar\u0131 qad\u0131nlardan bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra \u00e7\u0131lpaq \u015f\u0259kill\u0259r ist\u0259yir. \u00c7ox vaxt qad\u0131n t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sizlik ed\u0259r\u0259k onun bu ist\u0259yini h\u0259yata ke\u00e7irir. Sonda is\u0259 g\u00f6nd\u0259rdiyi \u015f\u0259kill\u0259r qad\u0131n\u0131 \u015fantaj obyektin\u0259 \u00e7evirir. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f onu h\u0259d\u0259l\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k k\u00fclli-miqdarda pulunu m\u0259nims\u0259y\u0259 bilir. Analoji situasiyalarda qad\u0131nlar \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc nec\u0259 qorumal\u0131d\u0131r ki, sonda qurbana \u00e7evrilm\u0259sinl\u0259r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u201cYeni Sabah\u201da dan\u0131\u015fan psixoloq Ayt\u0259n \u018fl\u0259kb\u0259rova bir s\u0131ra n\u00fcanslara toxunub. Onun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bel\u0259 hallar\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn insanlar yeniyetm\u0259 vaxtlar\u0131ndan cins\u0259l t\u0259rbiy\u0259 m\u00f6vzusunda maarifl\u0259ndirilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBel\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259bind\u0259n psixoloqa m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259n qad\u0131nlar \u00e7oxdur. Cavan v\u0259 subay q\u0131z pasientl\u0259rim m\u0259n\u0259 g\u0259lib deyir ki, Ayt\u0259n xan\u0131m, sanki m\u0259n h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 eyni s\u0259hvi edir\u0259m. Bildirirl\u0259r ki, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flayandan bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra o\u011flan h\u0259min q\u0131zdan s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n fotolar\u0131 atmas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b edir, atmad\u0131qda is\u0259 soyuyub, uzaqla\u015fma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Q\u0131zlara v\u0259 qad\u0131nlara bel\u0259 adamlar t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n bir fikir a\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r ki, \u0259g\u0259r s\u0259n m\u0259n\u0259 ist\u0259dikl\u0259rimi virtual olaraq ver\u0259 bilmirs\u0259ns\u0259, s\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cburam. B\u0259z\u0259n el\u0259 olur ki, yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259, \u015fagirdl\u0259r aras\u0131nda bu kimi hallar ba\u015f verir. Onda insanlar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, u\u015faqd\u0131r, virtual sevgi ya\u015fay\u0131r. Ancaq bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259n diqq\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015faqlara cins\u0259l t\u0259rbiy\u0259ni \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259k bu bax\u0131mdan \u00e7ox vacibdir. \u0130lk olaraq, m\u00f6vqeyimiz bundan ba\u015flay\u0131r ki, \u0259sl ki\u015fi keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 2 yer\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcr\u00fck: \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olan l\u0259qay\u0259t v\u0259 ham\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olan l\u0259yaq\u0259t. T\u0259bii hald\u0131r ki, ki\u00e7ikl\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olan l\u0259yaq\u0259tin i\u00e7ind\u0259 onun q\u00fcvv\u0259tliliyin\u0259, c\u0259sar\u0259tin\u0259 v\u0259 irad\u0259sin\u0259 inam hissi yaranmal\u0131d\u0131r. Daha sonra \u0259traf\u0131nda tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlar\u0131 qoruma\u011f\u0131 u\u015fa\u011fa a\u015f\u0131lamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bu qoruma is\u0259 \u015fidd\u0259tl\u0259 yox, sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq, m\u00fchafiz\u0259kar add\u0131mlar\u0131n at\u0131lmas\u0131 il\u0259 izah olunmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ekspert vur\u011fulay\u0131r ki, qad\u0131nlar emosional ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 qoruya bilm\u0259dikd\u0259 bel\u0259 hallar\u0131n qurban\u0131 olurlar:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cHaz\u0131rk\u0131 g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259, h\u0259tta orta ya\u015f qrupunda olan insanlara aid olan qad\u0131nlar\u0131 misal g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bil\u0259rik ki, kimi ail\u0259sind\u0259n ayr\u0131l\u0131r, ya da h\u0259yatda b\u0259xti g\u0259tirm\u0259yib. Biz bilirik ki, h\u0259r evli qad\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xt deyil. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, h\u0259r hans\u0131sa bir insanla virtual tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q ba\u015flay\u0131rsa, t\u0259z\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu insana bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t onu incid\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r v\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r haqq\u0131nda b\u0259hs edir. L\u0259yaq\u0259tini ayaq alt\u0131na atan ki\u015fi is\u0259 bu m\u0259lumatlardan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u201cGec\u0259 sindromu\u201d deyil\u0259n bir anda, gec vaxtlarda p\u0131\u00e7\u0131lt\u0131 il\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lan m\u00f6vzular zaman\u0131 h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f el\u0259 bir atmosfer\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr ki, b\u0259z\u0259n bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011funsuz m\u0259zmunda \u015f\u0259kill\u0259r g\u00f6nd\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Qad\u0131n h\u0259min adama \u015f\u0259kil g\u00f6nd\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 is\u0259 ki\u015fi k\u00fcs\u00fcr v\u0259 xan\u0131mdan \u00fcz d\u00f6nd\u0259rir. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fccl\u00fc hesab ed\u0259n b\u0259y dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 xan\u0131m\u0131 h\u0259min \u015f\u0259kill\u0259rl\u0259 \u015fantaj etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Amma burada \u00f6n\u0259mli m\u0259qam var. H\u0259r bir qad\u0131n bilm\u0259lidir ki, \u0259g\u0259r h\u0259yat\u0131ndak\u0131 adam onu cidd\u0259n sevirs\u0259 v\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t edirs\u0259, ondan \u00e7\u0131lpaq m\u0259zmunlu \u015f\u0259kil g\u00f6nd\u0259rm\u0259yini ist\u0259mir. Bunu ed\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsin n\u0259 dost, n\u0259 d\u0259 yolda\u015f ola bilm\u0259si m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. Sad\u0259c\u0259, qad\u0131nlar emosional ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131 qoruya bilm\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bu t\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrl\u0259r. Bunun ad\u0131 \u015f\u00fcursuz add\u0131md\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olan halda he\u00e7 bir ir\u0259lil\u0259yi\u015f g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psixoloq bu kimi hadis\u0259l\u0259r bar\u0259d\u0259 maarifl\u0259ndirm\u0259 t\u0259dbirl\u0259rin\u0259 ehtiyac oldu\u011funu da qeyd edib:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBel\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r ortaya \u00e7\u0131xandan sonra q\u0131naqlar v\u0259 iradlar ba\u015flay\u0131r. Ancaq d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcr\u00fck ki, bunlar\u0131 kim edir. M\u0259nc\u0259, ail\u0259sind\u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259l v\u0259 yerind\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 alan o\u011flan, ki\u015fi ad\u0131n\u0131 da\u015f\u0131yan \u015f\u0259xs bunu etm\u0259z. Bu adam\u0131n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131, q\u0131z\u0131 v\u0259 bac\u0131s\u0131 olmaya bil\u0259r. Amma onu bir ana d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirib. Bel\u0259 davran\u0131\u015flar, ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 anaya h\u00f6rm\u0259tsizlikdir. Son olaraq is\u0259 bunu bildirm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m ki, \u015fantaj yolu il\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 qad\u0131ndan pul t\u0259l\u0259b edirs\u0259, burada art\u0131q n\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259viyyat, n\u0259 l\u0259yaq\u0259t, n\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259h\u00f6rm\u0259td\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fmaq olar. Sevginin ehtiras \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmas\u0131 do\u011fru hal deyil. Bel\u0259 oldu\u011fu t\u0259qdird\u0259 is\u0259 s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n duruma d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k qa\u00e7\u0131lmazd\u0131r. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259, ali t\u0259hsil ocaqlar\u0131nda maarifl\u0259ndirm\u0259 t\u0259dbirl\u0259ri h\u0259yata ke\u00e7irilm\u0259li v\u0259 insanlar m\u0259lumatland\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131rlar\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259tdir ki, insanlar dostluq v\u0259 sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini virtual arenada qurma\u011fa \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verir. G\u00fcn\u00fc-g\u00fcnd\u0259n artan v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n insanlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131 bahas\u0131na ba\u015fa g\u0259l\u0259n \u015fantaj hallar\u0131 el\u0259 m\u0259hz sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259n edil\u0259n tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qlarda ya\u015fan\u0131r. Qurbanlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti is\u0259 qad\u0131nlard\u0131r. B\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259r virtual al\u0259md\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olduqlar\u0131 qad\u0131nlardan bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra \u00e7\u0131lpaq \u015f\u0259kill\u0259r ist\u0259yir. \u00c7ox vaxt qad\u0131n t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sizlik ed\u0259r\u0259k onun …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15416,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15415","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maqazin","category-olke"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15415","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15415"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15415\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15417,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15415\/revisions\/15417"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/15416"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15415"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15415"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/millitv.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15415"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}